“Emotional Intelligence” and “Mindfulness” have become important topics in the field of psychology. Emotional Intelligence describes the capacity to effectively manage our own emotions while simultaneously perceiving and responding appropriately to the emotions of others. Mindfulness practices provide powerful tools to build Emotional Intelligence and promote better mental health by interrupting impulsive, automatic behaviors that feed conditions like trauma and addiction.
Trauma leaves a powerful imprint that lays dormant in the body and mind. This imprint is easily reactivated by anything that "triggers" memories of the original experience. When this happens, people often become flooded by the same overwhelming emotions and distress that they felt during the actual trauma.
Without help, reactivation of traumatic memories can last for several years or an entire lifetime. Psychotherapy offers useful perspectives to help people understand their unique relationship to traumatic experiences while simultaneously providing practical tools to help them effectively manage the impact that these experiences have on their lives..
Human beings are born with a biological instinct to connect with each other. Survival depends on it. All babies come into the world completely helpless, and “understand" that they’ll die if they're unable to connect with caregivers.
This instinct to connect carries over into adulthood, but often becomes problematic because many adults find relationships confusing and even anxiety provoking. This creates a painful bind: humans are born with a powerful instinct to connect, but adult emotions such as fear and anxiety make connection difficult or next to impossible.
Therapy offers highly effective tools to navigate this “bind” and help people learn how to deepen bonds, improve communication and ultimately create satisfying relationships.
When looking for a therapist to address addiction and other forms of compulsive behavior, it’s important to find a provider who’s able to recognize and respect each client’s unique recovery process and treatment goals. My primary focus as a therapist is to create a structure that meets each client where they’re at in terms of changing behaviors, while simultaneously challenging them to take steps to meet goals that they’ve set for themselves.